“You’ve never come from penetration?” he asks, incredulous.
What does he want me to say? I’m just joking, encouraging you to go down on me more instead of allowing you pleasure. I’m only telling him because he seems to be holding back. Waiting for me to orgasm before he does. It’s sweet, in a way. But it’s not as if his orgasm ends the encounter and I’m getting sick of the idea that it does.
I’ve told this to many men in the past, but I can count on one hand the number who listened.
Often the response is along the lines of “you haven’t met the right guy yet” or “other guys must have been doing it wrong” as if I don’t know the body I have inhabited for over 25 years as well as they do. As if men are the fount of all knowledge of sexual activities just because they watch more porn than me. (‘Cause porn is EXACTLY like real sex!) If I push it further and continue to deny they will make me come from penetration they often say “I’m sure I can make you orgasm that way” which says one of two things to me: a) I don’t listen to you nor do I respect you enough to trust that you know your own body as well as I do and b) My ego is so fragile I would rather have you fake it so that I can feel better/more manly/ good about myself than actually give you a pleasurable fuck.
I’m ashamed to say I usually end up faking once and then never seeing them again.
The only time I did see a guy again after having done that it was years later and I told him I had faked all the orgasms I had ever had with him. He wasn’t happy, especially when he tried again but again didn’t listen to me, learn from the past or do anything different but I didn’t fake it. Silly Farmboy, you’ll never be my Wesley.
Don’t even start me on the porn positions they try… I’ll leave that for another day.
Cake, Cocktales and Kink 